No matter how amicable a divorce is, it is never an easy process for the parties involved. Even if the couple is able to peacefully navigate the process with very little to no arguments, there still is the emotional side of divorce that comes with the changes in your life you are going through.
For some people, they prefer to keep a lot to themselves, especially when the facts that led to a divorce are complicated or they are having a difficult time processing their emotions. Many people are worried about how their peers will view them after divorce.
Because of the overwhelming difficulties tied to the divorce process, you need the love and support of your family and friends to help you overcome its challenges. What is also empowering is that although it may seem as if everything is out of control, you can take some control and power over your life by doing these helpful things:
Divorce is a difficult time, but joining a support group for people going through the same thing can boost your shrinking sense of stability because you may feel as if you are losing grip on your life. Talking through your issues with others who are going through divorce can help you see how they were able to work through some of their issues and to see how you can use their stories as inspiration. You can also share openly with them with the fear of being judged.
There are tons of resources online, but you have to use a keen sense of knowledge or awareness to distinguish which ones are credible and legitimate. Legitimate online forums can help you talk about your difficulties related to divorce and also connect you with a counselor suited for what challenges you are facing as you go through divorce. Credible blogs also will provide you with some knowledge, options, and resources that might resonate with your circumstances, with what you are going through. Just make sure you do not share anything to personal or pay for any online services before doing your research to make sure they are credible.
It might be tempting to wallow in misery because everything feels so uncertain and you feel powerless or lack confidence in your ability to move on. However, now is your chance to take control of your life. You can start being grateful for all that is good in your life like your friends and family. As you try to get your focus back, you can then take stock of what keeps you excited and interested in life by engaging in a hobby or activity that will add value or joy to your life. Also, by focusing on what truly matters like your health and your relationships with your family and friends, you can spend more time with them on activities that you all find enjoyable and refreshing.
It is common to feel helpless or abandoned when going through a divorce that is filled with misunderstanding and conflict. If you are feeling anxious, powerless, and a diminishing sense of self-worth and find your life difficult right now, remember that you have the choice to turn a negative into a positive. There are so many things you can look forward to such as new hobbies, pushing for a promotion at work or spending more one on one time with the kids. The list of possibilities is endless.
The divorce lawyers at Petrelli Previtera, LLC have been able to help countless people overcome the challenges of divorce over the years. When people first reach out to us they are often scared and in a delicate emotional state. It is normal to feel this way. Just remember that it will get easier. You will get through this. Let us know how we can help.