Divorce Laws in New York: Ten Things to Know

1: The Basic Issues in a Divorce

A divorce consists of the following issues: 1. establishing grounds; 2. Equitable Distribution (i.e., dividing the marital assets); 3. Maintenance (alimony); 4. Child Custody and Child Support; and 5. the emotional impact.

2: Establishing Grounds for a Divorce

You need "grounds" to get divorced in New York. The valid grounds in New York are:

  1. Cruel and inhuman treatment
  2. Abandonment of one of the spouses by the other spouse for a period of one or more years
  3. Your spouse is in prison for 3 or more years
  4. Adultery
  5. Living pursuant to a legal separation agreement.

Note that abandonment can be shown in two ways: (1) your spouse refuses to have sexual relations with you for one year or (2) your spouse leaves the marital residence (without a valid reason and without your consent) for one year.

It is important to note there is no such thing as "irreconcilable differences" in New York. This means that if you and your spouse simply do not like each other, sleep in separate beds or never eat together, these are not valid reasons to obtain a divorce in New York.

3: Extremely Unlikely That Your Divorce Will Go To Trial

It is extremely unlikely that there will be a trial in your divorce. Less than 10% of divorces go to trial (although many divorces will settle on the eve of trial or on the courthouse steps).

Therefore, you and your spouse will eventually settle the case and enter into an Agreement (also called the "Stipulation of Settlement" or "divorce papers"). The Agreement is a contract between you and your spouse and it will provide for dividing the marital assets, child custody, child support, custodial time, maintenance, as well as many other items.

What often happens is that after many months of fighting, you and your spouse are in court and an Agreement is finally agreed upon. The court may ask the attorneys to put the Agreement "on the record." This means that the attorneys will verbally state what the terms of the Agreement are.

In my opinion, this is the worst thing you can do. A divorce is complicated and it is virtually impossible to state every term and condition verbally "on the record." Instead of putting the agreement "on the record", you or your attorney should ask for a two week adjournment (or more) so that the Agreement can be put in writing.

4: Equitable Distribution/Property Division

Equitable Distribution means that the marital assets will be divided between the spouses. This does not necessarily mean that each person gets 50% of the marital assets. There are many factors to be considered, one of which is determining if an asset is to be considered a marital asset in the first place.

What is a marital asset? All property and assets acquired between the date of the marriage and before the execution of a separation agreement or the commencement of a matrimonial action. If the property was acquired while you were married, it doesn't matter the form in which title is held. Thus, if you buy a house after you are married, and the deed is in only one spouse's name, it is still a marital asset. Likewise, just because your spouse owns the car she drives and always drives it, if the car was bought after the marriage started, the car is a marital asset, and you probably own one-half of the car.

What is not considered a marital asset? Property that was acquired prior to the marriage and the following items (even if they were acquired during the marriage): property received as a gift an inheritance, or a personal injury award. However, your separate property can be converted to a marital asset if you put it in a joint savings or checking account.

Equitable distribution is a complex area. If you or your spouse have assets which you believe should be classified as a marital asset, it is highly recommended that you seek the advice of an attorney.

5: Maintenance (Formerly Known as Alimony)

The purpose of maintenance is to give a spouse, after the divorce, economic independence. Maintenance should continue only so long as it is necessary to allow that spouse to become self-supporting.

The Courts are required to consider many factors in determining whether or not there will be maintenance. Some of them are:

  • If one spouse was not working and can not become self-supporting, there may be an award of maintenance
  • If there is a great disparity of income and/or property between the parties, there may be an award of maintenance
  • The duration of the marriage
  • The age and health of the spouses

Numbers 6, 7, and 8: Child Custody, Child Support, and Visitation

Child Custody

There are three basic types of child custody:

  • Sole Custody
  • Joint Legal Custody
  • Joint Legal and Residential Custody

Sole Custody means that one parent has sole decision-making power for all decisions concerning the child. That parent does not have to consult with the other parent on these decisions.

Joint Legal Custody means that both parents share decision-making power. Typically, each parent is supposed to consult with each other about all important decisions concerning the child. One parent will have residential custody, which means that they have the children living with them most of the time and the other parent gets visitation (also known as custodial or parenting time).

The parent who has residential custody will be referred to as the Custodial Parent or sometimes the Residential Parent. Usually when someone says that they have "Joint Custody", this is the type of Joint Custody they have. If there is a conflict between the parents, then almost invariably the Custodial Parent's viewpoint will prevail. This is why it is very important to have a very clear and explicit Agreement to detail who will make the decisions and how conflicts between the parents will be decided.

Joint Legal and Residential Custody is where the parents share decision-making power and in addition, they have close to a 50-50 in their physical time with the children. Neither parent would be deemed the "Custodial Parent." In practice, Joint Legal and Residential Custody is very rare.

Child Support

If one parent has sole custody or is the Custodial Parent, then the other parent will be required to pay child support. The amount you pay in child support is based on your gross income. If you are a W-2 employee, you only get very limited deductions, they include, alimony paid to any former spouse, alimony paid to this spouse, child support paid to children from a previous marriage. You also get to deduct the amount you pay in Social Security Tax and Medicare (7.65%). Once you make this deduction, your income is called the CSSA Amount (Child Support Standards Act). If you have one child, you pay17% of the CSSA Amount, two children, you pay 25%, three children, 29%, four children, 31%, five or more children, at least 35%.

Visitation

Unless you have Joint Legal and Residential Custody, one parent will have the kids most of the time and the other parent will get visitation (also called custodial time or parental time). You can be very creative in fashioning your custodial time. It does not have to be every other weekend.

For more information about child custody, child support, and custodial times, please read "Child Support and Child Custody Issues in a Divorce: What You Don't Know Can Hurt You" © By David Badanes, Esq.

9: Uncontested Divorce, Contested Divorce, Collaborative Divorce and Mediation

An uncontested divorce means that the parties agree to get a divorce and that they also agree on all the issues relating to the divorce. You do not need to make any court appearances. Your attorney will file the appropriate documents with the Court. Once your attorney files the documents, it will take about two to three months before you are "officially divorced."

In mediation, the husband and wife meet with a mediator. The mediator does not represent either party, but, instead, tries to get the parties to agree on all the terms of their divorce. If the mediation is successful, then the parties can get an uncontested divorce.

A collaborative divorce means that you and your spouse agree to get a divorce. However, instead of having the attorneys "fight it out", you and your attorney, your spouse and his/her attorney all meet to try to come to a resolution. All of the people involved in the meetings (including the attorneys) agree to work together to achieve a settlement. If the meeting is successful, then the parties can get an uncontested divorce.

A contested divorce means that the parties will be going to court and having their respective attorneys represent them.

10:What Really Happens in Divorce Court

If you have a contested divorce, you most likely need to make at least one court appearance. When you go to court, the Judge will first ask to speak with the attorneys only. The attorneys will meet in the Judge's chambers, out of sight of you and your spouse

When your attorney meets with the Judge, the Judge will ask for a brief overview of the important issues involved in your divorce. The Judge will probably ask the attorneys to settle the case and give his/her guidance on the issues.

You almost certainly will not get to "tell your side of the story". That would only really happen, if you went to trial. However, as previously stated, trials are very rare, so the Court will never hear your side of the story, at least not from you.


David P. Badanes, Esq.
Badanes Law Office
842 Route 25A
Northport, New York 11768
631-239-1702 [email protected]
www.dbnylaw.com
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