Going through a divorce is a very trying time in any person's life. When you add minor children, it worsens the situation. When a couple makes the decision to divorce, I strongly recommend talking to your spouse about what to do with the children.
I find that children benefit greatly when the parties put the best interest of their children as their top priority. Do not use your children as pawns to get to the other parent. Your children love you both, and they will always love you both. Do not make allegations that are untrue to hurt the other party. It will come back and haunt and worse off, it will be detrimental to your children.
Make sure that your file an application for temporary order; The temporary order governs what happens to the children during your divorce, such as who has custody, where are the children going to live, who pays child support and how much. It also has certain automatic temporary injunctions, which states that neither of the parties is allowed to harass the other party, or to do anything that would be detrimental to the children or that would harm the marital estate.
Try to be accommodating of the person's schedule and do not be nasty. Don't be a push over either. In this case, the rule do unto others as you want them to do unto you is completely applicable. Finally, make sure your divorce is final, meaning that there is a divorce decree, which is signed by the judge and filed with the court clerk. You will be surprised, how many times divorces are not final because although everyone that needs to sign it has signed it, it is not filed with the court clerk.